Monday, April 20, 2009
How do you find out if someone is telling you the truth?
In order to find out if someone is telling me the truth or not I will normally do my own mini "investigation" to find the answer. I hate being lied to and do not appreciate when I do not get a straight answer that could later cause drama if I further provide that information to someone else. So, if one of my friends were to give me an answer that seemed suspicious, I would take it upon myself to find out where they got that information. If their source is from another person that I know, I will usually ask them myself to verify that they are correct. Erroneous information has a tendency to be passed around a little too much so I feel that I need to get the story straight. I will check online for answers to statements that I find unbelievable. Knowing my source gives me confidence in my answers and furthers my trust with the person or acquaintance.
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With my friends, I can generally tell when they're telling the truth and when they're lying just by noticing their mannerisms. However, sometimes I have to try and trick them. If I think their story might be false, but can't tell, I'll act like I don't believe them until they cave. If they don't cave, I'll either say I'm going to look it up (and then I do and figure it out) or say I believe them. Once I say I believe them, they either laugh and say, "gotcha!" or the issue is dropped. Obviously, if they laugh and say, "gotcha!" they were lying. However, if the issue is dropped, that does not necessarily mean they were telling the truth. If I still feel like they are/were lying, I will do my research.
ReplyDeleteI agree, I think with friends it is a lot easier to find out if they are telling the truth or not. This might be because you have already gone through the a investigations process with them. I feel like becoming friends with someone is almost like the research process in itself. You have to ask yourself you have have thing in common, what that person could do for you, and if you could see yourself trusting the person. To find these answers you have to go through a little investigation. After you have come to conclusions you can determine if the two of you fit well as friends. I think this is similar to the process of determining if someone is lying to you. Perhaps because you have gone through this process with friends it is easier to figure our if they are lying or not you know them and what they do. But with people who you don't how does it change the process for you?
ReplyDeleteIt definitely helps a lot when you know the person that you are dealing with. You already feel comfortable talking with this person and you can pick up on things that only certain people would notice. I know when there is something wrong with my friends or if they are not telling me the truth just by maybe even one little thing they do differently. I think the biggest give-away is not being able to look me in the eyes. Then i definitely know something is wrong or they are not telling me the truth.
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